Quran: [17:36] "You shall not accept any information, unless you verify it for yourself. I have given you the hearing, the eyesight, and the brain, and you are responsible for using them."
Quran: [49:12] "O ye who believe! Avoid suspicion as much (as possible): for suspicion in some cases is a sin: And spy not on each other behind their backs. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? Nay, ye would abhor it...But fear Allah. For Allah is Oft-Returning, Most Merciful."
MARITAL PRIVACY IN ISLAM
A very shameless trend has emerged nowadays where members of both the sexes narrate the details of their Marital Privacy (talk about goings on at home, sexual life & sexual intercourse) to parents, friends and associates.
This is in complete contradiction with the concept of Marriage in Islam. Many Muslims are not aware that this act may lead the distruction of Iman and destroys all our good deeds.
Such action should be shunned totally.
This also gives others an opportunity to meddle in the private affairs of the couple.
This is an extremely sinful and detestable act in the sight of Allah. �Amongst the worst of people in Allah�s sight on the day on Qiyamah is that husband who indulges in privacy with his wife and then reveals her to others� [Muslim]. The same applies to women.
Translations
2:187 (Sheikh Naushad Kaudeer Al-Madani from Mauritius): It is lawful for you to have sexual intercourse with your wives during the nights of fasting. Your wives are like your garments and you are like their garments.
(Garments are used to cover the private parts; therefore the sexual life of a married couple should remain as a secret between them and should never be disclosed to a third party)
.�They (your wives) are your garments, and you are their garments..� (Qur�an, 2:187).
The Quran calls the husband and wife �libaas� (garments) of each other. The first and foremost purpose a garment serves is to protect the body from harm, and to cover its shameful parts.
A happily married Muslim, whose spouse is pious and Allah-conscious should, therefore, be vehement in protecting them behind their back, from humiliation, ridicule, or derision � even if it comes from apparently well-wishing biological relatives.
He or she should also never reveal to others their spouse�s faults that Allah has kept hidden, or their secrets and personal matters, to anyone else, even parents or best friends. The Quran especially demands this from the righteous wife:
�The righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband�s) absence what Allah would have them guard.� (Qur�an, 4:34)
Last, but not least, the married couple should turn to each other first whenever they need emotional or moral support during a crisis. Just as a favorite garment becomes softer and more comfortable over time, a spouse becomes the single, solid, supporting rock to which one clings during life�s intermittent upheavals and �storms�.
The Prophet Muhammad (Salla-Allahu �Alayhi wa Sallam) said:
�THE WORST OF THE PEOPLE IN (THE SIGHT OF) ALLAH ON THE DAY OF RESURRECTION IS THE MAN WHO DISCLOSES (SECRETS) TO HIS WIFE AND SHE DISCLOSES (SECRETS) TO HIM AND THEN HE REVEALS HER SECRETS (TO OTHERS).�
Muslim Chapter 21 Book 008 Number 3371 � Volume 2, Number 1020, Abu Dawud � Number 4870; with the chain: �Abdur-Rahman Ibn Sa�d on the authority of Sa�eed al-Khudree
Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta �ala) says:
THEREFORE THE RIGHTEOUS WOMEN ARE DEVOUTLY OBEDIENT (TO ALL�H AND TO THEIR HUSBANDS), AND GUARD IN THE HUSBAND�S ABSENCE WHAT ALL�H ORDERS THEM TO GUARD (E.G. THEIR CHASTITY, THEIR HUSBAND�S PROPERTY, ETC.)
Surah An-Nisa� 4:34
EXPOSING THE SECRETS OF ONES HUSBAND/WIFE
There are some women who are overcome (with the urge) to talk about goings on at home and their (private) life with their husbands to their relatives and friends. Some of this talk is about private matters which the husband would not want anyone to know about.
Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta �ala) says:
Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to All�h and to their husbands), and guard in the husband�s absence what All�h orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband�s property, etc.)
Surah An-Nisa� 4:34
That which some women talking about what is goings on at home and married life to their relatives and friends is haram, and it is not permissible for a woman to reveal private matters of her home or how things are with her husband to anyone!
The Prophet Muhammad (Salla-Allahu �Alayhi wa Sallam) said:
�The worst of the people in (the Sight of) Allah on the Day of Resurrection is the man who discloses (secrets) to his wife and she discloses (secrets) to him and then he reveals her secrets (to others).�
Muslim Chapter 21 Book 008 Number 3371 � Volume 2, Number 1020, Abu Dawud � Number 4870; with the chain: �Abdur-Rahman Ibn Sa�d on the authority of Sa�eed al-Khudree
Commentary: Islam treats conjugal union as a sacred and secret act, both in social and moral terms. Indeed, the sanctity of conjugal rights contributes to the consolidation of moral norms and social cohesion. Yet, what passes between wife and husband on the consummation night is usually taken in a light vein in our societies. In the morning, both of them relate their sexual experience to their friends respectively. This is moral indecency which is incompatible with human dignity and civilized behaviour. This Hadith reckons it as a grave sin which must be eschewed. The bed-experience must be kept private by the married couple to the exclusion of a third person.
Shame on you Muslim Men & Muslim Women who divulge their MARITAL PRIVACY, because even in the Bible it is mentioned as follows:
Gen:2:24 "Therefore shall a man
leave his father and his mother,
and shall cleave unto his wife:
and they shall be one FLESH
Marriage is the Sexual Union
between a man & a woman to
form ONE FLESH as woman
was
created from the RIB taken from
the man.
Really you believe it or not, it is really a BIG SHAME on you Muslim men & women if ever you divulged your Marital Privacy to others.
